WHY I DECIDED TO GO GREY (FOR NOW)

Here's one of the shots I presented to Lauren of my dream color.  Image: http://www.bladessalonandspa.com.

Here's one of the shots I presented to Lauren of my dream color.  Image: http://www.bladessalonandspa.com.

I've been coloring my hair since 2007.  Right after our wedding, I cut my long, virgin hair and dyed it platinum.  While I don't regret it, my hair would never be the same again.  

For a dark brunette, platinum blonde was not only major upkeep, it was difficult to style my straw-like strands into the sleek 'Victoria Beckham bob' that I so desired.  It was fun, however, to see people we'd known for years glare at my new husband when they saw him with "another woman."  Priceless.

Since then, my hair has been colored shades of caramel, black, red, and back to dark brown.  Aside from my hair texture (chemically treated hair is far coarser than smooth virgin tresses), something else changed in the last nine years; I started going grey.  

When it got the the point that I was photoshopping the grey roots out of my Instagram photos (guilty),  I decided that I needed to make a change.  Kyle and I were sitting at dinner when he suggested, "Your hair obviously wants to be grey.  Why not go with it?"  I had already considered it; I like to set my own standards of beauty and I had begun questioning why grey hair was such a bad thing.

I had long admired "granny hair,"  hair so platinum it's silver (and sometimes with a violet undertone), but I hadn't necessarily considered it an option for me.  Suddenly, I was picturing myself with chic, statement grey hair and I was digging it.  I searched Pinterest for Inspiration and found plenty.

The following morning, I emailed my expert colorist, Lauren, who really peed on my parade.  I trust her completely, and I know she holds the health of my hair as top priority, so when she told me it basically couldn't be done because of all of the years of color on my hair, I didn't give up without a fight.  

"But can't we just put in some grey extensions?"  Um, that's a no.  Image: http://niinasecrets.com.br/

"But can't we just put in some grey extensions?"  Um, that's a no.  Image: http://niinasecrets.com.br/

When I persisted, she threatened me with 6-10 five-hour bleaching sessions.  Sure, I'd get my granny hair, but I'd probably also have to get a granny haircut.  We'll put a pin in that...

Never one to take no for an answer, I researched weaves, and pitched the idea to Lauren at my next appointment.  That also came back with a verdict of impossible- unless...  I was willing to let my hair grow out natural long enough to be able to safely bleach it, which could take years.  So how is everyone else able to change their hair???    

THREE THINGS I LEARNED ABOUT DRASTIC HAIR COLOR CHANGES:

1)  Everyone is wigging out.  The celebrity who goes from dark to blonde to red to green?  She's wearing a wig (and apparently so is everyone else on the red carpet.

2) Or just faking it.  The blogger with the amazing, ever-changing hair has probably annihilated her strands with bleach and is wearing a full head of someone else's hair.

3)  But, if you really want to do it, a blank canvas is the best canvas.  In order to do anything resembling granny hair, I was doing to need to let my hair grow out au naturale.

Essentially, Lauren told me to pick my poison.  It was a difficult decision, but I left the salon chair that day without coloring my hair.  As I type, I have about 1.5" of natural hair growth, a good amount of which sparkles silver, and warm brown hair from mid-shaft to end.  

There's nothing granny about this.  Daphne Guinness photographed by Joseph Lally.  Image: reallifeiselsewhere.blogspot.com.

There's nothing granny about this.  Daphne Guinness photographed by Joseph Lally.  Image: reallifeiselsewhere.blogspot.com.

So what's next?  Lauren is lightening my dark hair extensions so I can rock an ombre effect while my hair grows, and I've been instructed to take great care of my hair (send in the vitamins, coconut oil, conditioning masks).  If I'm still feeling grand[ma] in three to six months, we can revisit the idea of bleaching.  In the meantime, I plan to have fun trying on wigs (after all, I've been told almost every celebrity is wearing one) and I'll be embracing the grey- with absolutely no shame.  

The best part is that in several months, I can come up with my own version of "granny-chic," and I'll be using these pics as inspiration.  

Fashionistas, which look do you like?